Sarah Jessica Parker has famously said that she’s radically different from Carrie Bradshaw, her iconic Sex and the City character—but we can’t help but wonder if she’d agree with a few parallels we’ve drawn between the two. For starters, both have risk-taking personal style—Carrie once wore a bird on her head, SJP a meme-worthy flame headdress—and both value romance and commitment in their lives. It may have taken Carrie and Big a few years (well, 10) to make it down the aisle, but they finally got their happily-ever-after ending. And in real life, Parker married Matthew Broderick on this day in 1997; they’re celebrating their 20th anniversary. That’s a lot of date nights.
In honor of the milestone, we’re looking back at Parker and Broderick’s best going-out looks—from glitzy Broadway parties to low-key alfresco dinners. It turns out that Broderick doesn’t waver from crisp tuxedos and sport coats, while Parker goes for boho dresses, statement jewelry, and tutus—no doubt a signature she picked up from Carrie. Above, five ways to get the look, whether you’ve got a date night of your own coming up or just need a little spring fling.